Sheryl_2_DQ5

Nonverbals:

*Hugs

*Chat

*Twitter

*Gifts

*Gazes

Verbals:

*Skype

*Love expressions

*Phone calls

I do not have any problem talking about my self. I hate lie, so i try to be always honest. 

And always there is going to be differences with other people, but the secret is to RESPECT.

Nobody thinks in the same way, but if we respect each other there's not going to be problems.

And "Double moral"? Every body has something of double moral. Because people always is judging what others are doing, but when is their own case, they act different. Maybe you don't approve some acts from other people, but in others subjects you are more permissive with yourself. 

Glen_2_DQ5

Nonverbal:
Chat
Posts
Body language

Verbal:
Greetings
Face-to-face conversation
Phone calls
Video calls

I don't think I have issues presenting myself, but just in case, I can count on my family and friends (not contacts) to tell me to put my feet on the ground. I think that in social networks,  body language is disguised, so people often use emoticons/texts that don't resemble a true emotion.
Therefore, nonverbal communication on websites allows users to  control the way they want to be perceived, on a certain moment.

Brenna_2_DQ5

Nonverbal things:

• Social networking
• Physically contact
• Body language
• Texting/Instant messaging

Verbal things:

• Talking on
• Skype
• Phone

I know that I, personally, have an uncertainty about myself. I generally present more of myself on social networks than I do in person because I am an extremely insecure person. Social networking has provided me an outlet in which I can express my honest opinions and views without the thought of it being an embarrassment later in person. 

Cici_2_DQ5

Verbal:
Talking face to face
On the phone
Video chatting

Non verbal:
Social networking sites, like Twitter or Facebook
Texting
Email
Instant messaging


With social networking, you can easily hide facts about yourself. You can make you out to be a better version of you. While if it is someone you meet in person and get to know by talking face to face, you can see HOW they interact in a different way. They won't be exactly exposing themselves, but you can still catch on to how they feel or think about things while seeing them in person. You can see their reaction to what you say or what you hear. While on twitter they can just say something, you don't really know if they are laughing or crying, you are just reading what they give you to read. But something like twitter, people can also feel safer to expose their true feelings on subjects because the people who follow them, they might not know in person. So in that was it is reversed, you are giving the real you to people you have never meet, while people who have know you for years get a watered down version of you.

Belkys_2_DQ5

Ok, list of all the ways in which I present my personal vision and values that do not involve speech: 

Hugging people

Smiling 

Opening doors

Writing (Facebook) 

Praying for them (in silence) 

Being honest

Keeping secrets 

Keeping thoughts to myself

List that do involve speech: 

Listening and giving feedback 

Greeting 

Ask about them 

Telling them how important they are 

Skype 

Serving them

These lists f things are the ones that came to my mind right now. 

Following up with the question of whether these ways of presenting me to others are in conflict or not, I have to say that I think it depends on the person I am dealing with, because people's first impression about me will not always be the same. And I say first impression because once you get to be my friend and know who I am prejudgments go away for there is no need to have them anymore.  

Rena_2_DQ5

Nonverbal:

• Facebook
• Twitter
• Instagram
• Pinterest
• Google+
• Blogger 
• Skype (instant message)
• Text messaging
• Letters (yes, I do still write letters)
• World of Warcraft (chat, mail, and guild forums)

Verbal:

• In person
• Phone calls
• Skype (call or video call)
• World of Warcraft (Vent a.k.a. voice chat)

I think it's probably true that some of the ways I communicate with others are in conflict with who I really am. I try to be real and present myself as myself online, but I think everybody has a tendency to "touch up" their life and make it seem cooler than it really is. Personally, I have a very detailed Facebook profile (with the exception of omission of my phone number and physical address), and I think if you really looked at it and went through everything, you could get a good idea of what kind of person I am. I'm a little uptight and I'm not afraid to admit it. I have a very defined sense of humor. I'm artistic and musical. I like to document happenings in my life with strict accuracy. I'm very organized. I'm a nerd. And on and on and on. However, I'm sure that my Facebook profile makes me and my life seem cooler/better than in reality.

I'm a private person though, and my online profiles do not reflect that at all. Although detailed and abundant, the things you would find online are very topical. There's a lot more to me as a person than I present to most people. I don't think I have any double standards or present myself as uncertain about myself, however I do think I probably present myself as a prettier version of myself. You can't get to know me by reading my profile.

As far as verbal communications, well, that honestly depends on with whom I am conversing. Obviously I'm going to be more honest and more forthcoming with my best friend than someone from class I barely know, because, as aforementioned, I am a private person.

vincent_2_DQ5_NQ

Um. Hope the title is correct but down to some serious business. There are millions of ways that my values may be presented to other people through nonverbal ways one of them is how I act. Yes I am crazy or am I just random you decide with this next question. To everybody people have said that they are not crazy but they do crazy things. Does that mean that they are or are they just being random and doing what they think is fun? During orientation I jumped through the blue taped obstacle and had a lot of fun doing it, but later on I had been told that it was an extremely crazy thing to do, yet someone else said that it looked fun to do and wished that they had done it first. So the question I am posing is a counter question: do non verbal action mean different things to different people?

Ian_2_DQ5_NQ

Non verbal - Facebook, Myspace, texting, twitter, blogs, forums, emails, fine arts
Verbal - phone calls, meetings, counselor session, Skype

I don't like people that are TWO faced because you never know what face is the true one, you can never be sure if what they are saying is a lie or the truth.

What have your close friends done that seems like a double standard?
-One of my friends have talked very bad about someone but once they come into the house and get confronted about it, they say there never said anything bad and that they where a very nice person.

Vincent_DQ_4

i believe that the only type of relationship that is truly perfect is when there is are  emotions involved or it is beneficial to both parties involved No i have no been in an unfair relationship there can not be a true relationship in my opinion unless there is some sort emotion or kinship

Sheryl_1_DQ4

Well, i never been in a serious relationship, but i used to have a best friend. Yes, i used to. And we never were more than friends, so our friendship didn't finish for something like that. But the problem was he wanted to force me to do things that i did not want to, just because he liked it. So i had to choose between what i wanted to do and he. And so many times in life we must make hard decisions in relationships, but we always must remember to look for what is better for us.

Anaeli_DQ4|

When there is an "extra I love you/I miss you" or any other kind of words that express emotions, and emotions that are not felt at the moment, I would say that we are stepping into an "unfair relationship"

Being away from home and finding it hard to be able to keep in touch with all of your friends, acquantainces and families from home; you are taking the risk of being part of an unfair relationship without you even noticing.   I definitely think that "facebook relationships" can sometimes turn into unfair relationships because you are not really next to the person you are talking to, and whatever is said during a conversation cannot be proved right or wrong, you simple have to "hope" it is fair and truthful.

Thinking about this, makes me realize how many times I have written to some people how much I miss them or how much I love them, when I haven´t really thought of them during the previous time.  This is of course, not a general statement. But when distance comes into play and the relationships are not strong enough or the time of having them is not long enough, this could become an unfair relationship.

Cici_1_DQ4

I can only think of one relationship honestly. The people involved in said relationship where together since highschool, so basically highschool sweet hearts. They were together for about 30 years of marriage and then the marriage ended. And as I look back on it the man in the relationship demanded all attention be on him all the time, while the woman wanted to be with her parents and care for them because they are older and need help, so she wasn't always able to be around 24/7 like he wanted. He put all this pressure on her to make HIM happy and that if he was in a bad mood, she was responsible. But to everyone they knew, no one would suspect these major issues. Yeah they fought, but they had always made up. I always had a feeling something was being hidden from everyone because niether of them ever seemed truely happy. Someone was always upset about something and they blamed one another, or believed they were the cause of all problems. No one was willing to take the blame for what they did wrong. Neither was willing to work it out in the way the other person wanted. They played to everyone that everything was good, even though we all could see something wasn't right. It wasn't fair for the woman to take all the blame for the mans problems. Yes I sound maybe a little harsh, but he is a grown adult who doesnt know how to be responsible for himself. But the woman is no angel, she put all her energy into her parents and probaly should have spent a little more time talking and being with her spouse.

Brenna_1_DQ4

Yes, I do believe I have been in an unfair relationship (not a romantic one, this was family) where the other person would scrutinize my every move and they made it feel like it was just because they cared but there was a past conflict with someone else that caused the scrutinizing. I just happened to be in the middle of it. I am sorry but I do not want to dig any deeper than that. It's something I don't like to discuss.

Belkys_1_DQ4

This story has two sides, but I have to warn you that this post is completely biases towards one side of the situation I am about to expose.
Two acquaintances of mine were involved in a romantic relationship, it seemed to be that both were happy with the way things were. However, I realized that it was a codependent relationship. The girl had low self-esteem and insecurity problems, therefore she was always depending on him to make decisions. He knew she did not have a strong personality so he used to always ask her to clean his house, cook for him, do his laundry and other chores. If she refused, he would be upset and angry at her, until she finally do all that he asked her to do. I said this was a bias post because I show him as the "bad guy of the movie", although she was not a little girl, he was taking advantage of her. Even though he alleged to care about her, being with other girls (doing things that should not be done when being in a serious relationship) and what is more, look for her merely to use her to serve him does not show a behavior of someone just nor of a fair relationship.

“Codependency, by definition, means making the relationship more important to you than you are to yourself,”http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/signs-of-a-codependent-relationship

Paris_1_DQ1,DQ2,DQ3&DQ4

DQ1

 Divorce rates in India are amongst the lowest in the world. 11 marriages out of 1,000 marriages (around 1 marriage out of 100 marriages) ends up to divorce in India. I believe that's because in the U.S we have the freedom to voice our opinion in a marriage and us Americans usually want everything to work our way somewhat selfishly enabling our marriages to end in divorce. The low rate is mainly because most Indians still live in villages, where divorce remains a an important factor that can destroy a family's reputation and leave a woman an outcast/outsider for the rest of her life. Their divorce rate is actually slightly rising mostly because women in India feel they have values that have to be tended to and if that man is not being cautious or watchful of those and is being selfish the marriage will most definitely end up a marital catastrophe. In the U.S. divorce can just come easily if we just don't want to be with that person anymore. In India it's not that easy. They reflect more over their lives and consequences of leaving their other half. Therefore India has the lowest divorce rate. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/12/india-divorce-rate-rise_n_848201.html

DQ2

I honestly believe marriages should not be arranged by parents. I believe they should be approved though. Nobody knows how you feel towards your other half except you so if your parents don't approve of it that's on them. On the other hand, if his/her parents don't approve of it you just might have to do some reconsidering. I had a lot of freedom in choosing the relationship am in now. I do plan on getting married and i also plan on getting her parents approval first before i start planning everything out. I just think it's a difference if your parents don't approve it than if your partner's parents don't approve of it. I'm not rebellious but that's just how i feel.       
 DQ3:
It is scientifically proven that the brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25.The emotional makeup of a child is fully developed at age 5.  Although the brain reaches its full adult weight by the age of 21. Interesting! The neural connections of the brain continue to form, change and redirect when contacted with new experiences and new ideas. I stated that to tell you that you can't possibly have the mindset of staying in one relationship forever because your mind is still growing. Well even though i feel that way towards my other half the majority of college students feel the urge to get out and explore. College students like the idea of exploring new relationships and college is the place to be. Maybe you meet somebody that has more similarities that you have than your other half does. Will you leave her?  We are still developing mentally and emotionally so our mentality towards dating or romantic relationships and marriage our two different things. They should be a combination of the two.  I only date a person if i can see myself with them in the future and I'm in college too but college students just want to have fun; point blank. Seniors are a little older and they know they will be graduation soon so its a possibility that they will find that person they can branch out with in life. Maybe if they surveyed seniors instead of all college students they would get better results with their research.://www.academic.marist.edu/mwwatch/fall05/science1.htm

DQ4:

I have presented an unfair relationship. In my perspective it was revenge because i was presented with many unfair relationships. I am honestly in my first serious relationship. I acted as if i cared many times and that's somewhat rude but i did whatever i had to to get payback. It's immature but that was in the past. Most of us easily fall in love so it's easy to fall for any type of relationship that feels good. It's not good to present unfair relationships because that's when hearts get broken and when hearts are broken emotions are destroyed

Rena_1_DQ4

I don't think I've ever been in an unfair relationship at all. If I have, it didn't last long because I definitely don't stand for a lazy significant other or friend and it would make me uncomfortable knowing that my significant other or friend did more for me and our relationship than I did. Obviously no relationship is perfect, but I think striving for a good, equalish relationship is something you should want to do.

Ian_1_DQ4

yes i have, i use to live with someone where they did nothing but sleep in the house, but they would complain that i was not doing my part of house clean up when i was doing the laundry, picking up every room and mowing the lawn....all they had to do is wash the dishes.

Ian_1_DQ3

the only thing i could think about using college age students for research is that they may lack the maturity level necessary to get a proper response.

vincent_1DQ_3

nothing because college student have a new style of relationship to think about A.K.A. marriage these years make us revise what we know about relationships

Sheryl_1_DQ3

Is wrong because this young people (who usually go to college from 17 to 23 years) are in a conflict age, living the transition from high school to university, and they have just started trying to look what they want for future.
Lots of them arrive in college without know what they want to do the rest of their life. Nobody is equal than another one, but most in cases, this kind of relationships pass away, because they do not want to be alone but also have new and big responsibilities, there is not much time to think clearly. Is like a "transition age" 

Sheryl_1_DQ2

I can not talk about my example because i do not have a partner now; but i think marriages do not be arranged by parents because each of us has the freedom to choose what exactly wants for future. Is our life and we can do whatever we want, BUT it does not mean that our choosing is going to be the right one.
That's why is really important that they be approved for the parents.
I do not believe in arranged weddings because not always exist love between the partners, but, in general, is essential the parent's approval .

Sheryl_1_DQ1

In this country we have the opportunity to choose. We are free and can find our happiness with anyone, no matter who is.
In India is not the same, divorce is the last option for them. Because they have a different culture, beliefs and hard rules that they must respect.
Is harder when they have a partner who is not a good one but ussually the parents make a good election, and even if the marriage has problems, they must try to solve them first. The divorce is one of the most embarrasing things for the indians, but here is as normal  as a wedding.

Glen__1__DQ3

Personally, I don't think college students have the the appropriate age to be part of the research, because this stage represents maturity in individuals. A long-term relationship is not a easy decision, however some people have been defying the odds of young romance.Therefore, it could be interesting to know the percentage of the successful couples of the group.

Glen__1__DQ1

The culture in India is very complex and it is religiously diverse. I believe that the divorce rate is pretty low because of the social stigma that applies to divorced families. Some Indians  still believe in disorder through castes and degradation of family values. People in the US have more freedom, when it comes to  a commitment like marriage, it could be done easily through a divorce.

Ryan_Ch.1_DQ2&DQ3

DQ2: I believe that marriages should not be arranged. because is should be your choice on who u should be with id rather be happy with someone i want to be with then be with someone my parents have pick for me and not be happy with that person



DQ3: Well it depends on the age of the students most freshmen are form ages 16 to 19 where the Senors and older and have more common since not saying the freshmen dont have commen since but i think everyone know what i mean.       

Cici_1_DQ3

Using college-age students as research about romantic relationships could be completely sketchy. You are at that age where you don't really know who you are, and you are makng choices in the moment to help you in the future. And when a romantic relatonship is involved there is a possibility that the relationship won't be entirely stable and secure compared to one between two grown adults. There is a lack of stablity that could greatly effect the end results.

Cici_1_DQ1&2

DQ1:
I think the difference between divorce rates in both countres is purely a cultural thing. People in India are more expected to stay together, while couple in the US can easly say "we didn't get along that well" and can go fill out a paper, and bam it's done. Freedom to what we want with our lifes is large part of the US, so many people tend to forget what marriage is supposed to stand for and treat it as something with no importance. India is more strict with their beliefs and standards. But it is a cultural aspect of their country. So it needs to be noted that these are two completely different countries with different beliefs.

DQ2:
I do not think marriages or any kind of relationship should be arranged by your parents. If you meet your partner on your own time, it is more important. You can connect more with that person in a way. But that being said, I think it is important for your parents to approve of the person you are with. Because they just want what is best for you so they will most likely know if this person is the one for you in some aspects.

Rena_CH1_DQ1,2,&3

This is going to be my response for Discussion Questions 1, 2, and 3 since I neglected to make my post last week.

DQ1: I think the divorce rate in India is lower than in the United States for many reasons. First, in the US, it is socially acceptable to get a divorce whereas in other countries such as India, divorcing your spouse would have all kind of consequences, such as dishonoring your family or being disowned by them. Also, in India, it is part of their culture to have arranged marriages. It's not necessarily about love. People don't get married with the same mindset as in the US.  Women also have greater rights in the US versus India and many other countries where women's rights are all but nonexistent. In the United States, marriage just isn't taken as seriously as it is in other countries. People just flit in and out of them because they can. The mindset is, "Oh well I can get married right now, spur of the moment, on a whim, and if it doesn't work out, well there's always the option of divorce."

DQ2: I don't think marriages should be arranged by parents. I definitely think you should marry for love, not because your parents have matched you with a wealthy suitor that will be able to take care of you. I wouldn't care about the security if there wasn't any love. I definitely think marriage is a very personal, intimate decision. I do, however, think that it's very sweet and very respectful for a man to ask a woman's father for her hand in marriage. While it's not necessary, and sometimes you have to go against your family's wishes to make yourself happy, I just think that it's a very polite and very romantic gesture, that shows the woman's family that you respect them enough to see what they think about it before you whisk their daughter off into a new life with you. Although I don't currently have a partner, the guys I have dated have not necessarily been very similar to me. I have been in relationships with guys that are different from me religiously, a different ethnicity than me, and just lots of different things. While relationships can sometimes be complicated by these differences (hypothetically, imagine an atheist dating a person of faith), they are not necessarily important to me.

DQ3: I think that using college-age students in research for romantic relationships can have a couple of flaws. I don't think college students would be a very good control group to get results concerning romance, necessarily. College is about exploring the world and getting to know yourself and how you relate to others, so romance may not necessarily be present in a relationship. The cliche idea of college is that everybody experiments with alcohol, drugs, and sex. Maybe not all three, and maybe not extensively, but it is generally understood that college-age people and people in college are mostly all about having fun and being young before they have to get their life together and be a put-together adult with major responsibilities. So I think that researching romance using college-age people could yield poor results, depending on the type of research being done, simply because it's not as much of a priority among that age range as it is with people older than that.

Anaeli_1_DQ3

Research:  Systematic investigation to establish facts or principles or to collect information on a subject.

That is the definition for research. And we can see how the main purpose for research is to "establish facts or principles."  And in order to get that it would be very hard to only focus on just one group of people, college kids, in this case.  There must be variety, but I would think that college kids should be taken into account, since it is at that age when most of the people "think" or actually "do" find their "significant other" that they decide to share their lives with.

Anaeli_1_DQ2

I do not think marriages should be arranged by parents, however, I do agree that marriages should be approved by parents.

Parents are a God given gift that we must respect and never take for granted.  Even when we feel like they have nothing to do with us, there is A LOT that they have to do with us.  They are much more experienced than us, and the advice that they can give us should be heard.

My parents have been my closest counselors and advisors and I respect very much their opinion. This doesn't mean that they don't give me any freedom to make my own decisions.  They have taught me to analize, think and of course pray when making a decision of a romantic choice.  There are many things that I take into account when thinking  for the person that God has decided to be my partner in life.
My parents have given me absolute freedom, but advice from them is always welcomed!

Anaeli_1_DQ1

Culture. Values. Commitment. Respect.

I belive that India and the United States are two absolutely and completely different cultures, that trying to find common denominators would be very hard. That, of course, has a lot to do with the fact that marriage is seen very differently in both countries.

There is also a current wave of lack of values here in the United States that has a lot to do with the fact that many people decide to get married and soon get a divorce if it "does not work out."

The commitment that people used to have when they got married is an "old school" thing, it is hard to find people that take seriously the part of the vows that is read during the wedding that says "Till death do us part." I personally believe that God plays a very important role in this commitment and the respect to Him can also have a great influence when it comes down to divorce.

In these two different cultures, society sees through two different lenses . Respect to your own name and family name can have somehow influence when deciding to get a divorce. In the United States, individuality is the most popular way of living. No matter how many times you get married and get divorced, if you are individually successful, your name will not be "stained." But on the other hand, in India, family names and heritages play a greater role in culture, and the times that you marry and get divorce can create the worst of reputations.

There are many ways we could try to understand these differences, but with no doubts, culture plays a VERY important part.

Brenna_1_DQ3

There are several things wrong with using college-age students as research for romantic relationships. One thing wrong is most students do not even know who they are yet. During this time you are still discovering yourself and learning how you think and what you believe. You aren't a steady person in any way. It might not hurt to do such a study but it will not be as accurate as adults.

Brenna__1__DQ1and2

DQ1-
     As Dr. John has said, this topic divorce differences in India and America, is a narrow topic. I think in America we are given so many options and it can overwhelm us. We just resort to the thought of if the relationship doesn't work we can just divorce. While in India divorce it is not an option given and if it is done it can dishonor the family.

DQ2-
     I do not think parents marriages should be arranged by parents. I think it's good to have the freedom to choose who you want because you may not love who your parents chose. However, I do believe your parents should approve so you and your spouse can have a healthy relationship.

Ian_2_DQ2

If it is arranged by the parents of the child then it most likely would be a success and a failure. It would be a success because the parents are more thorough in their search of a spouse for their, hopefully, soon to be wed child. So the chances of them choosing a person of a bad background, and unfaithful personality are very slim. So in that perspective, the marriage would be successful. However, the chances of their child to lead a happy life are also slim, as they may grow to hate their spouses and refuse to have children with him or her. So in this case the marriage would be a failure., but i do believe you should have the parents blessings.

http://www.teenink.com/opinion/love_relationships/article/265293/Should-Marriages-Be-Arranged-by-Parents/

Belkys_1_DQ3

One negative aspect that I can point out when it comes to using college-age students to do research about relationships, is the issue of the poor emotional stability that this demographic group has. If the research wants to study merely the behavior of college students, then it is probably fine to conduct it.However, if the study involves long-term romantic relationships college-age students may not provide consistent results because at this age people change their mindsets about things.

Belkys_1_DQ1

In order to talk about why the divorce rate in the United States is higher than in India, it is important to be clear that each country has its own culture, its own customs and way of life. For example, in the United States people have more options in matters of economic improvement, women are more independent, and people have a liberal mind set about social relationships. On the other hand, India is considered to be a third world country, women have limited rights, and people have a very conservative concept of how relationships should be. Therefore, in a country with a liberal opinion about relationships, in which divorce is the number one option for "solving problems" within marriage, one can expect to find a 50% divorce rate. Whereby in a country where most marital relationships are arrange by the couple's parents and in which divorce is seen as an ultimate resource to fix a problem in the marriage, the 1% divorce rate is just fair. 

In my opinion, culture is the main factor that determines the reason why the United States has a higher divorce rate in comparison with the 1% divorce rate of India. 

Ryan_1_DQ1

There are many reasons why the divorce rate in India is 1% and the rate is at 50% in the United States. that in India to get a divorce is shamed upon. were in the U.S. its something the happens normally every day.  india also has arranged marriage where in the U.S. this happens but not as much. so i think the arramged marriage thing works for them but wouldn't work in the U.S.  

Ian_1_DQ1

In India the divorce rate is lower because the marriages are arranged and you have to have specific reason to divorce your spouse, not like america where you can just divorce for any reason. India marriage is a way to bring families closer together, but in america families don't always like to get the know each other.

Vincent_1_DQ2

I have had a great diversity in my realationships one of with the longest distance before we met was i was in jacksonville Arkansas but she was in Jacksonville florida and she  said that she would be moving to arkasas and in the end she did and we continued our relationship there 
No. I do not believe that parents should have any reason to be involved in the relationship of there kids unless the following occurs 1. it is completely dangerous for the relationship to continue. 2. There is a big issue that is obvious to everybody but the person  in question.

Vincent_1_DQ1

The Reason why i believe in India the divorce rate is so low is because of the fact that they do not have the freedom that we as Americans have and there marriages are arranged and therefore permanent or until an higher up decides that the marriage is no longer beneficial to the husband or the wife in some cases but the only ways that i have found on the website http://www.indidivorce.com/divorce-laws-in-india.html  the 5 basic ways are

1. Adultery
2. Desertion
3. Cruelty
4. Impotency
5. Chronic Diseases  

but in America there can be absolutely no reason for divorce

So Says Vincent D. Simmons

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YourFirstName__CHAPTER.Post#__NQ - Example: John__1.1__NQ
8) Your posts on "Listening To Your Own Life" days are a response to the "OL".  
9) Title each "Listening To Your Own Life" post like this:

YourFirstName__CHAPTER.Post#__OL - Example: John__1.1__OL

10) TOTAL NUMBER of Posts / Comments per week: 
6+/person/week

11) Add any hyperlinks that would compliment your post using the "Link" feature. 

12) Hit "Publish."