Paris_4_DQ14

Embarrassment is when something occurs that makes you nervous about what others will think or feel about you in a certain situation. I was afraid to speak my mind when i was younger because i had a fear of getting embarrased because no one agreed with my perspective not even my parents. I used to just try to make everyone happy but i'm not fearful anymore because God's opinion is the only one that matters so there is no way that you can embarass me. We all have expectations and when those expectations don't unveil the way we won't them too we usually comtemplate; which sometimes leads to mental embarrassment. You think about how that situation could have been different and how nervous you were which ends up totally embarrassing. You just have to live your life and don't worry about what other's think. If you are happy about your decisions then so be it. The generalized other depends on your role in society. If you have a high positon or job in life then what people think of you will certainly matter.

Brenna_4_OL

One of my favourite bands is constantly having theories said about them and what they are doing. A majority of the fans like to jump to conclusions and say one theory was right when it really wasn't. It can add tension between the fans themselves and the band. There has been a time or two when one of the band members would confirm something is false but there are still fans who believe the theory and not what the member said. That just adds to the frustration.

Glen_4_OL

I don’t remember of any particular event in my life. But recently, in the news the case of James Holmes are finding out more information about him. He opened fire at a midnight showing of the new Batman movie, and killed a lot of people. After that he make people think he was mentally ill and even change his hair color. Now, the media say that minutes before the shooting, Holmes tried unsuccessfully to call his university psychiatrist and mailed her a notebook with description of threats. Resist the temptation to judge details prematurely into a whole, people will have presumptions but this case is going to take a lot of time.

Sheryl_4_OL

The nearest people are the most powerful influence to make us change our minds. Is unconscious, we do not plan it, but happens. We can start thinking some possibilities for an “x” situation, and after listen other opinions probably our mind is going to change.

Well, as we have to share a personal experience, here I go. I had a classmate called Alfonso in high school. Then, when I was in college, in my country, I did a new friend called Joselyn, and they met each other through me. They started to date, and I was so happy because I thought he was a nice guy for her. During my high school years I saw that he tried his girlfriend (the one that he had in that time) with so much love and so I thought he was going to be the same with Joselyn. At first they look so happy, but then she started to tell me that she was feeling that something was wrong with him. I didn’t really care at first because I thought she was being a little bit paranoid, but the time showed me that she was right.  At the end I discovered he was not what I thought for a long time, and I could not believe it until she made me see it.

It disappointed me so much, but now it does not matter. The point is that I had a different idea of him, but when Joselyn convinced me (with acts) about the truth, I discovered that I had been wrong. 

Belkys_OL

I do not know if this experience I am about to describe fulfills the expectation of the assignment, but since it is about my own life, here I go. I am enrolled in this class in which I have to do a final group project. The professor divided us into different groups with 4 members in each. I have to say that I am not very content with some of the members of my group because some of them are not doing their part of the work, and this is supposed to be a team work. After a meeting that I had with my group, I was feeling very upset so I talked to my friend to kind of relieve the anger. She gave me the advice that this group presents to me a new challenge for this semester, and she also added that I am capable of dealing with this challenge. So, when I first had a negative attitude towards some of my group members, later on they became a motivation to work better and to improve, what I hope, my skills of good leader.

Anaeli_ LO

The next homework I have to turn in.

I believe this is one of the MOST recent events that has happened to me. And it was not just one event, it is an ongoing event.

There are definitely different versions and interpretations about this topic. The reactions that my friends have depends all on the commitment that they have to get good grades. It may not seem too important, but it´s the main reason for the different interpretations that my they have for homework.  Some of my friends would interpret homework as the teacher´s job to assign it and the student´s job to do them; and others would see it as one stressful and fun way to learn. And others would simply complain and complain about homework, about our daily event in college life.

Cici_4_OL

I really can't think of any recent events, but I remember when my favorite band broke up everyone who was a fan was placing the blame on one member who had left the band months before. No one really knew the story behind the break up of why they DID break up but they wanted a reason behind it so, it became that persons fault. Earlier this year the singer of the band who is now solo, came out and said, "Hey the break up was my idea." I don't think anyone would have ever thought he would be the person to really tear apart the group so it was pretty shocking. For a while people came up with some kind of theory and stuck with it. When the truth of the situation came out it was like everyone needed to take a minute and thought wow maybe we need the whole truth before we point fingers.

Rena_4_OL

I'm trying to think of some event I know something about, but I don't really pay much attention to the news or even watch tv very much. The one thing that pops into my mind is Casey Anthony. I don't know a whole lot about it but, to overstate, "everybody knows she's guilty." I say that because it seems like every person, whether it be close personal friend or new acquaintance, that I talk to thinks that she is, even though she was acquitted. None of my friends or I have ever had a change in interpretation of the Casey Anthony case. I guess sketchy doesn't mean guilty, and Casey Anthony is definitely sketchy, but it's all very suspicious...

Rena_4_NI

How do you guys feel about online classes? Do you think you would be more successful taking your classes online or in a physical classroom? Personally, I feel that I should never allow myself to take an online course. In the comfort of my own home, there are far too many distractions. Home is home for me, home is not school. I'm in a mindset when I'm in a classroom. I would not be productive if I took an online course.

Paris_4.1_OL

i know everyone knows the story of Tupac's death. My opinion beforehand is that i believe Tupac is still alive. Maybe i'm crazy but they don't even have enough evidence to say he's dead. Suge Knight, his music producer, said no one ever saw Tupac dead; which means in the casket.  The pictures of him before his death were obviously fake because they were all photoshopped. Nobody's going to take pictures of theirself looking the same exact way. A long time ago everyone gave up on it and said he was dead but now more evidence is resurfacing. His last picture of him sitting in the car at the stop light was extremely fake. In the picture he was sitting in the car at the stoplight and the keys weren't even in the ignition. How is that possible?? I informed all of my friends about it and they didn't believe me even though they saw it also. I tried to convince them based on what i saw but they still didn't believe me. We all have different perspectives and i see that mines is totally different than theirs.

Vincent_4.1_OL

One of the story's that I heard about a little at a time was the story on the death of power ranger's actor Tommy. Tommy supposedly died in a car accident then it said that he was not dead but in critical care, then it said that Tommy would be paralyzed from the waist down. Later on it said that Tommy would have had broken three bones. So yeah sometimes telling stories before you get all the facts can be a very bad thing and cause a very big issue. Luckily Tommy was just barely wounded and he was not in intensive care but this story got out of hand quickly. So yes I do believe that the media does release things at bad times and it can have a negative impact.

Vincent_3.4_DQ13

House is an amazing show, House himself is very crude but influential. He always has a way to figure out what needs to be done. People watch the show because people don't always want a hero they want some one who know how to say no.

Paris_3_DQ13

I have never watched House but judging by the previews people really do like it. I believe it's because he presents his views in a different way than most people expect and he acts outlandishly which to some people is somewhat humorous. Humor attracts audiences and they see the way that his character acts and they are pulled in to watching the show

Belkys_3_DQ11

In my opinion the past  definitively has a major impact in the person's future. However, what happened in the past does not determine who someone may be, it does influence everyone's personalities but it is not all that counts.
Someone's personality is formed not only for what he or she has experienced in the past but also for external factors that may have an impact on them. A traumatic situation of the past may be hard to forget, nonetheless, it is not impossible. It is up to each one to allowed themselves to go over or get stuck in the past. It is also important to understand that we should not forget what we did, what we went through and where we come from because that is what keep our feet on the ground. We should not be living in the past, should not dwell of what happened but learn from it and beware of the lesson we received to build a better future and live the present. 
As Bob Marley said "in this bright future you can't forget your past" but we do not have to be attached to it. it is hard to find the balance. Because a lot people would "don't think about the past, forget about it" but the truth is that part of the person we are right is because our past experiences, as I said before, it does completely determine who you are but it does have an influence. People who went through a traumatic situation does not forget about it, but if they do heal their pain positive future things are more likely to happen to them.
So, in other words, it is not that you should keep thinking about the past but you should keep the lesson you learned.

Belkys_3_DQ13

I have only seen the show a couple of times. But I realize that the reason why people may like the show is because of the stories that each patient have. Another thing could be, and this is just my opinion, that people like the "morbidity" of the show, for it shows curious cases and unexpected results. Although many people may feel offended about what is being said in the show, I am sure there are a lot of other people that really like whatever is being presented.

Cici_3_DQ13

I have seen maybe 4 episodes of house so I don't know that much about anyone on the show. But what I have seen from you can tell that Dr. House loves what he does. He may be a jerk but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to help people. But like I said I have never really watched the show enough to understand it.

Sheryl_3_DQ13

I have never seen that TV Show.
The only thing that i can say is that people usually feel attracted toward opposites. Other people just can see themselves in some actors on TV shows, and that is why they like it.

Brenna_3_DQ13

I don't watch House much but what I have seen of it, I love. Dr. House is a very direct and honest person with a dry sense of humour. His character has a strong personality and a fantastic mind. I think that is why I have loved what I've watched of the show. I do, however, keep up with a few shows though. Maybe they can relate. I watch Supernatural, Doctor Who, Skins, and Sherlock. Just throwing this out here for new discussion.

Glen_3_DQ12

Every day of adult life is touched by the memories of childhood experiences. I think people should apply a whole new is a state of mind, there is one choice freedom or prison. Similar experiences attached to the past are new opportunities to achieve an unaccomplished goal, it does not have to be the same, it is all up to you.

Glen_3_DQ11

The ugly remarks people heard during their childhood can make a lasting impact on life. Mentally, an individual could identify with failure, because of an unforgettable event. Therefore, stop trying to achieve goals. We live in the present; we do not need to waste time, energy & productivity on something that happened in the past. It is better to either deal with it, and move on!

ian_3_DQ13

I love watching house on TV, i think the guy has a brilliant mind. yes he comes off as an a-hole, but he is like i said a brilliant minded man. the reason i think people watch the show is cause its action packed doctor show, and some people that watch the show that end up with a diagnose like to see if they can solve it before the show shows the diagnose.

Rena_3_DQ13

I honestly don't watch House so I wouldn't really know. From what I've seen though, I think he's hilarious. As someone who sometimes has a very dry sense of humor, he just cracks me up. Seventy five percent of what comes out of my mouth is sarcasm, so his character is just great to me.

Anaeli_DQ3.13

Dr. House migh be a grouchy, insecure, arrogant, insensitive person and a giften physician; but I think that most of this, he is a very honest, direct and not-fake man.

I don´t think he is a bad person, I just think that sometimes he might just not measure his honesty and turn it into a very rude criticism. And I think that his honesty is something that people like to watch, there is so much lack of sincerity and "directness" in people´s relationships now. So watching something that shows that there are still people who are real and honest, demonstrates that people have not completely lost the capacity to do it.  Plus, the medical cases that the show are absolutely interesting that nobody should simply miss that! ; )

Anaeli_3.12

Victims or results of our past?

It´s not about rejecting and forgetting nor about suffering and keeping. It´s about experiencing and learning.

I don´t think anybody should consider him/herself a victim or his/her past, because we all have to go through rough times, but with what purpose? With the purpose of learning. If we want to grow in character, in spirit, in knowledge and even in our physical aspect... we must let our past experiences shape us into better persons who are capable to "fall down seven times, and stand up eight."

Our relationships mus be the type of relationships that help us to grow stronger in who we are by ourselvesand who we are with the other. Although we complement each other, we must be wholy complete in order to be the complement of the person that we love.  If we are capable to understand how to fall and stand up, first... then we will be able to see when the other falls and help him/her stand up, and keep walking besides us.

Anaeli_ DQ3.11

When I think of my earliest memories, there is one boy that comes to my mind. One boy that really marked my life in a "particular" way.
I met him when I was in second grade, his dad had left his mom and his mom lived with her sisters, where he was raised.

The way he acted was very different to any other guy´s actions. He always hung out with us, the girls. But he would make much more drama than any of us. His life at home was one great full mess. And the level of acceptance that he had of himself was the lowest, he was very insecure about how to act with any of the other kids and the rest of the boys rejected him.

This is definitely one case that I remember well, because it always broke my heart to see him wander by himself during recess time, while the other kids played soccer.

Paris_3_DQ12

The way we are treated when we are infants can have a huge part of our life growing up but i honestly don't think we can be prisoners of our past. You may have a few problems developing socially or in other ways but your past does not determine your future it only defines where you have been and what you have gone through. Change is not impossible trust me. I have been through a lot in my life but i don't let that hold me back from pushing myself in a positive way to succeed in whatever i do everyday. We are usually attached to somebody that we love but the theory that we will always have the same kind of experiences sounds dumb to me. My romantic attachments have never been the same and i'm glad they weren't.  I try not to look backwards into the past but sometimes i find myself doing that so i usually pray that i can let it go.

Shawn_3_DQ12_Q

i do not believe we are prisoners of our own past, as humans we have the ability to change any aspect of our life's, change the bad and remember the good and use those. i do not think every relationship of the same sort will bring out the same experiences, as time goes, people mature, and mindsets change. so your views on relationships, and the things you get out of it will be different.

How has your experiences changed from one relationship to another?

Brenna_3_DQ12

Yes, your experiences when you're younger can affect you when you are older. You can always change but there are experiences that stick with you and can affect your future relationship in different ways.

Sheryl_3_DQ12

The experiences of the infancy do not have to determine later relationships. But, sure, it depends of each person. We are talking about maturity, everybody can learn about bad experiences and try to do it better in the future.
Nobody is prisoner of nothing if he or she does not want, including the past. You can make changes whenever you want, but need to take the decision first and then start to work on it.  

Rena_3_NI

Recently I've discovered some really beautiful orchestral/choral music that I love to put on at any given time. Usually when I'm trying to concentrate, I need as close to absolute silence as physically possible. But I've found that I can study to this music quite easily. Most of it lacks lyrics, or if there are lyrics, they're usually in like Latin or some other language that doesn't really sound like a language. This music doesn't break my concentration or distract me at all. What about you guys? Do you find that you can study with lots of noise or do you need a particular set of sounds (or lack thereof) in order to concentrate?

Ian_3_DQ12

yes i think relationships at a young age matter a lot in your relationships in the further, like say your parents let you go play as a young child growing up and don't keep you held up inside your house all day, i do believe that the child would be more of a social butterfly than if the parents where to keep the kid inside all day and not allow the child to go play with other kids. i think we are not prisioners of our past, i do believe we can turn over a new leaf if we put our minds to it.

vincent_3.3_DQ12

Yes infancy has a lot to do with relationships, I do believe that people can change and should be given the benefit of the doubt. No, not all of my relationships have had the same style because just saying that means that everyone is the same and I'm pretty  sure I'd go insane if that were true.

Brenna_3_NQ

Memory and how the human brain functions is a very curious concept. It's interesting how amnesia and memory loss work. How a smell or a sound can trigger a memory of something. How you remember bad and good things but the bad stick with you more then the good. I do know I remember bad things that happen just as clearly or clearer then the good memories. I know that I forget things easily too. Funny how that works, right? What types of memory problems have you struggled with? Or known someone who did?

shawn_3_DQ11_Q

After Asking around I found that not many of peoples memories involved of acceptance, rejection, and insecurity, the only one that seemed relevant  is comfort, many memories consisted of first vacations, first Christmases, and early family events. to kids those can be some comforting times.

other than that. what is your first Memory?

Rena_3_NI

I'm a huge procrastinator. It's really bad. I have a lot to do and plenty of time to do it... it's just actually doing it that gets me! For example, I'm just now making this post and it's slightly over an hour before class. Better late than never I suppose. Anyway, what sorts of things do you guys procrastinate over? What do you do to overcome that overwhelming sense procrastination?

Sheryl_3_DQ11

I think earliest memories are very connected with people's personality in most of times.
The way that you were educated and corrected when you were a child, it's going to be demostrated in your adult life. Is unwitting, you will show what you got.
Of course, there are exceptions. Some people are very mature, and they try to change some bad things that they learned from their childhood. But, it is because they have learned through the years that kind of stuff will not help them at all.

Anaeli_DQ3.10

Personality:

a. The sum total of the physical, mental, emotional, and social characteristics of an individual.

b. The organized pattern of behavioral characteristics of the individual.

 

Now that we have read the definition for personality, we can ask ourselves, "What is personality NOT important in relationships?"  The There are definitely many aspects that we must take into account whenever we are involved in any sort of relationship. But if we understand our own personality, who we are and why we are that way... we will understand others better, which will contribute to the betterment of our relationship with them. Definitely the Western culture promotes a great deal on the self-satisfaction and self-development; and personality has a lot to do with both of them.

Belkys_3_DQ10

Parental control is such a  silly show. I don't understand how parents want to show that their child has a strong personality when they are choosing with whom their son/daughter is going to date. 
However, in the real life, out of silly TV shows, personality  is indeed important to develop interpersonal relationships. Personality should represent the values and thoughts of someone, therefore, it should resemble who you are as individual.
Since each individual is unique, so their personality will be different from each other.  And since we live in a society that allow us to decide our date, we have the freedom to chose which personality matches with ours.

Paris_3_DQ11

Your past reflects on the present but it doesn't determine how you will turn out in the future.  I used to try to fit in so much when i was younger. One day everybody was doing hand lift back flips. I weighed like 90 pounds, i was skinny, and i decided that i wanted to be brave and make myself known by jumping onto their hands and telling them to throw me up. They threw me up VERY high and i froze in the air and  i didn't do a flip. Everybody was shocked and didn't react fast enough to catch me so i landed on my stomach. My eyes closed for a couple of seconds and i realized that i broke my right arm. I didn't cry until i put that ice on my arm. Yeah i cried... My mom got mad after she saw the bill but i felt comforted knowing that i still was alive and i was happier than ever; even though i missed like 10 games of the basketball season i was okay. Now i realize that i don't have to try to fit in because if they really were cool with me they would like me for who i am and not for the things that i do.

vincent_3.2_DQ11

My earliest memory  is in the court room on adoption day.  The reason why I like this memory is because of the fact that it really helps me define who I am as a man now, what I want to be, and what I don't want to be. I won't bore you with the details, but know this that there is a moment that I can tell you that you might think is weird but it actually quite common.  I remember being in the court room an the judge asking me to go sit next to my mom at the time he was talking about my biological mom, but me being seven I went and sat by my foster mom and started a huge uproar. I remember just being there and feeling extremely happy. That is why it is my most fond earliest memory.

ian_3_DQ11

as i child i remember playing every sport i could just to fit into the "it" crowd at school, although it never really happened i still kept on trying to, i would go to football practice then leave and go straight to soccer practice. i remember playing baseball in the rain just to win a silly pick up game. i remember running track just cause all the cool kids did it and that is what i wanted to be, a "cool kid". i did all this stuff that sometimes didn't make any since, or i hated going to just to be accepted.

ian_3_DQ10

some people may change their personalities to match their favorite movie star or other famous person. you don't want very different personalities, but you want some common interest in the relationship so it doesn't fail. it shouldn't matter what you have or what you do, it should matter whats in the inside.